Here is a perfect example of what I write about. You have an innocent boy trying to understand why there is lack of love and corruption in others. He recognizes that there is something wrong in the world. Something not quiet right with people. Just as you at one point recognized it, but you lost your innocence when someone violated you and you reacted to them. Innocence is freedom from guilt because you are done needing the world to get love.
The Mother in this clip cannot truly answer the question her son asks, for if she truly "looked at it", she would be overcome with guilt, and see what she has become. She would see the manipulation, the attachments and the games she playing in the name of "love". Denying the denial of truth is the name of the game. So it's on to a new "victim" to get "my" needs met.
The relationship between man and women is predominately cultivated with a "love" that comes from the world. It's a selfish love where each individual is there to secretly get the pleasure they seek. For the most part the women gives a love that enslaves the man. But the man has been conditioned to need that love. It's a love need void of God. It's a worldly love that makes the man need more of her love. The man is not able to see what is happening in the beginning because he is blinded by the lust of pleasure he gets, and the approval that makes him feel like a god. Little does he know that the more love he takes from her the weaker he becomes, and the more authority the women has over him. The authority she does have makes her hate him for his weakness, and not giving her what she really needs. This loving and hating relationship is born in sin.
The man most likely had a mother who did the same thing to his father, and therefore he was infected and sought out the same love from his wife. It's the only love he has ever known, the love of the world. One day though he wakes up in horror, lifeless though he is, and all used up, realizing he married his mother. He hates his wife for the love she gives because he senses something else behind her, something dark. He begins to pull away and become distant. If he has a daughter the relationship with her is mostly non-existent. The only love this man has ever know is a worldly love, so he has nothing to give. He can only push her away.
His daughter, never getting the love she needs, will resent and hate here father, but the resentment she holds needs one to resent to be complete in it's hatred. She finds a man just like her father and it begins all over again. Love and hate, hate and love. So the love of the world, while disguising itself as truth, is motivated by the lie. It comes in many forms of niceness, and appeasement. It does make one feel justified in there sin when someone loves you just as you are. This game hides the guilt away for a time until God's call for repentance brings the pain snapping back to the ever present reality of your nothingness. Never receiving any correction causes one to become ever worse in there sin, and there is always a "friend" to support you in it. You make sure to surround yourself with those who tell you nothing else.
To stop this cycle of guilt and sin one must overcome evil with good. So you have to begin with your reaction to the supplier of your love and hate. You must not resent the one who tempts you. You have to begin to become aware of when it is happening. You are trapped in an emotional game that your tyrant now has control over you with. They themselves only have a limited power, from taking your power, but they themselves are still enslaved to sin. There is a dark force behind the whole game that is using them. What we want is the power of God to break this cycle, and God has given us the power through the Holy Spirit.
It is your intuitive means to freedom from sin and death. He that is within you will awaken you back to the nature of truth and real love. Just by recognizing where you are weak and where you have chosen to doubt (losing your innocence) becoming guilty, a new world begins to form as the dark illusions fall away. You have forgotten God and made other forms outside yourself into god's. The kingdom of heaven is within and not without, so stop trusting in doubt. You are believing in yourself, and the self you create needs doubtful pleasure and reassurance from without that what is not real is real. This self conforms continually to the fallen nature with many lying angels along the path to give you the answer you seek. To find faith in doubt.
You cannot say "No" to your tyrant for this would lead to certain end of the false love you want. When you do awaken you will be able to say no to your manipulator (husband or wife) and in doing so correct the inherent wrong within the other. The man needs to correct the wife when she attempts to tempt him with this love, or if the wife is somewhat awake can show the man how to stop tempting her to tempt him with the need for false love. When the man stops using the women for his selfish nature then he is able to rescue the women from her own dark fallen nature. All the teasing and tempting she does is only a cry to be set free from the power of the dark side. Now the women is free from the serpent to serve the God nature she see's in her husband. A godly woman is gifted with insight and recognizes the benefit of serving this God nature which comes through the husband. A godly woman is attracted to a man like her and in serving him she does not betray herself.
Now you can see that all relationships born of the world are about placing stumbling blocks in one another's way, as to make sure that neither one may come to the truth. You play good, and nice and appease and look for acceptance but are never honest enough to see that love is part of patience and not manipulation.
So it's your choice to choose if you want to recognize the truth one day when your old, fat, wrinkled and the love of the world as chewed you up and spit you out (getting exactly what you deserve). Or choose the love that comes from wisdom that leads to righteousness. When you seek God first all these other things will be added unto you and rightly so.
Hello, my name is Darren. I am dedicated to sharing my life and giving freely as everything has been given to me.